Death of Icons
By · CommentsThis has definitely been a long week for Hollywood, with the death of three icons (two in the same day). While some deaths may not have been suprising (because the icon had been ill for quite some time), another left the world asking “why?”.
Then, our little state lost its own icon in a tragic death that has no rhyme or reason….and just makes you wonder what makes a guy rip away someone else’s life, leaving everyone else in a pool of his aftermath. I’ve always struggled with this – what happens inside someone’s head that makes it “okay” for him to destroy not only the victim’s life, but, the lives of everyone around them – both the victim and the murderer.
I am confident, in the case of Ed Thomas, that the townspeople of Applington-Parkersburg will get this through this. There are calls for prayers for both the Thomas family and the Becker family….but, gosh, what a terrible thing. And the townsfolk that I’ve watched in interviews – both after the devastating tornado last year and Coach Thomas’ death this year….in general, they appear to be strong Iowans….who pick up the pieces, deal with it, and keep moving forward.
While we are on the topic….when there are MULTIPLE witnesses to a shooting, why is it that the shooter is still presumed innocent? I know that it’s the way our justice system was set up….but, when someone is clearly guilty (the person who commited the crime)….is that really necessary? Maybe if there is more than 20 eyewitnesses (since we all know how unreliable eyewitnesses testimony can be), we can just skip the “potential gunman”, and go straight to – this guy did it.
Back to the losses of our national icons. It kind of makes me angry that everyone continues to bash Michael Jackson after his death. He was strange – eccentric – but, that isn’t criminal. He had a terrible time (from the sounds of it) managing money – again, NOT criminal. And, if you all remember….he was found not guilty of the charges. Weird that many people presume he was guilty when he was found not guilty (without 20+ eyewitnesses)….but, a guy who is CLEARLY guilty of murder (back to the Iowa Icon’s death) is still presumed innocent. How screwed up is that???
No matter what Jackson’s personal issues were – he was eccentric, not very good with money management, not super good at choosing the people around him wisely, terribly misunderstood, frail but not frail, addicted and not addicted, etc….he was a great artist who changed the face of music videos and music itself. I liked his music when I was younger, and was ALWAYS amazed at his artistry.
I think this is more of a case of people not understanding the mind of an artist. They have a tendency to see the world much differently than a non-artistic person….sometimes, people think they are just an “odd duck” and sometimes people think they are a total freak….but, in the end, in my opinion, it has to do with living in a different side of our heads. He was what I considered an “upper level” artist – someone who was not only artistic, but, one who was almost a prodigy. Those artists don’t come along often – but, they *almost always* have “issues”….So, while us common artists are considered a little odd…..the prodigy type artists are “cut-off-my-ear” type odd – again, not criminal….but, that living in that side of your head at that intensity couldn’t possibly make you more normal than the average artist….if anything, it would push you in the other direction. The perfectionism that comes with it….well, that never helps a person emotionally.
And, Farrah….I have to say that I couldn’t imagine going from a “sex icon” to releasing a documentary on your struggle with cancer. But, I think allowing people to see that not-glamorous battle demonstrated, in a big way, her spirit – it was very important to her for people to see that battle that every day people face and the fact that she was a “sex icon” when she rose to fame didn’t stop her from showing the raw ugliness of cancer and the treatment of it. I *didn’t* watch the documentary…when I was flipping through the channels, I saw it, but, watched less than 2 minutes and found myself wondering why someone would watch the whole thing – not because of the documentary, itself…but, more the subject matter. I found the whole idea to be very sad and borderline morbid.
Then, there was Ed McMahon….some people said they were shocked when the news of his death was released….but, I am not sure why. He had not been in good health for several years. EVERYONE – even people who didn’t see Carson/McMahon on the tonight show know that great “Heeeeeeeeeeere’s Johnny!” – and you see people trying to come up with that great one line that everyone will remember them by all the time. McMahon was definitely an original. I’m also sad that he will never come to my door with a check for 10 million dollars! I never thought of McMahon as a “pichman”….but, when I heard him referred to as a great pitchman, I had to agree….his name gave credibility to many things that otherwise wouldn’t have meritted a second glance.
All in all, a very sad week. I hope, as time passes, we will be able to recognize the best of those we have lost and understand that what we see on the surface can easily be misunderstood.
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Cows and world ideologies
By · CommentsTwo posts in one day? I know…it rarely happens.
On my drive to the city today, I recalled an excellent explanation regarding world government/ideologies/societal structures that I read as a forwarded email years ago (see the last definition below to get a feel for when…it was highly relevant at the time I read this originally). With all the talk of socialism vs. capitalism vs. communism etc, I thought it was appropriate to find the fun and simple explanation and post it to give everyone some simple clarity on where we may be headed.
I do not have the original author information to give credit where credit is due. So, if you happen to know the original source (or *are* the original source), please let me know and I will update the post to reflect the source information.
Read these closely…..and feel free to replace “cows” with property that is more personally relevant to you (or, you can just insert CAR COMPANIES and you will get a really good idea, considering Chrysler and GM’s dispositions as of the time of this post).
Feudalism
You have two cows. Your lord takes some of the milk.
Pure Socialism
You have two cows. The government takes them and puts them in a barn with everyone else’s cows. You have to take care of all the cows. The government gives you all the milk you need.
Bureaucratic Socialism
Your cows are cared for by ex-chicken farmers. You have to take care of the chickens the government took from the chicken farmers. The government gives you as much milk and eggs the regulations say you should need.
Fascism
You have two cows. The government takes both, hires you to take care of them, and sells you the milk.
Pure Communism
You have two cows. Your neighbors help you take care of them, and you all share the milk.
Real World Communism
You share two cows with your neighbors. You and your neighbors bicker about who has the most “ability” and who has the most “need”. Meanwhile, no one works, no one gets any milk, and the cows drop dead of starvation.
Russian Communism
You have two cows. You have to take care of them, but the government takes all the milk. You steal back as much milk as you can and sell it on the black market.
Perestroika
You have two cows. You have to take care of them, but the Mafia takes all the milk. You steal back as much milk as you can and sell it on the “free” market.
Cambodian Communism
You have two cows. The government takes both and shoots you.
Militarianism
You have two cows. The government takes both and drafts you.
Totalitarianism
You have two cows. The government takes them and denies they ever existed. Milk is banned.
Pure Democracy
You have two cows. Your neighbors decide who gets the milk.
Representative Democracy
You have two cows. Your neighbors pick someone to tell you who gets the milk.
British Democracy
You have two cows. You feed them sheeps’ brains and they go mad. The government doesn’t do anything.
Bureaucracy
You have two cows. At first the government regulates what you can feed them and when you can milk them. Then it pays you not to milk them. Then it takes both, shoots one, milks the other and pours the milk down the drain. Then it requires you to fill out forms accounting for the missing cows.
Pure Anarchy
You have two cows. Either you sell the milk at a fair price or your neighbors try to take the cows and kill you.
Pure Capitalism
You have two cows. You sell one and buy a bull.
Capitalism
You don’t have any cows. The bank will not lend you money to buy cows, because you don’t have any cows to put up as collateral.
Enviromentalism
You have two cows. The government bans you from milking or killing them.
Political Correctness
You are associated with (the concept of “ownership” is a symbol of the phallo centric, war mongering, intolerant past) two differently – aged (but no less valuable to society) bovines of non-specified gender.
Surrealism
You have two giraffes. The government requires you to take harmonica lessons.
Enronism
You have two cows. You borrow 80% of the forward value of the two cows from your bank, then buy another cow with 5% down and the rest financed by the seller on a note callable if your market cap goes below $20B at a rate 2 times prime. You sell the three cows to your publicly listed company, using letters of credit opened by your brother-in-law at the bank, then execute a debt/equity swap with an associated general offer so you get four cows back, with a tax exemption for five cows. The milk rights of six cows are transferred via an intermediary to a Cayman Island company secretly owned by the majority shareholder, who sells the rights to seven cows back to your listed company. The annual report says the company owns eight cows, with an option on one more. This transaction process is upheld by your independent auditor with no negative balance sheet implications, followed by a press release that announces that Enron, as a major owner of cows may begin trading cows via a new internet site.
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Behind Closed Doors
By · CommentsIf there is one thing I understand to the core of my being, it is that a person should never make judgments of someone else based on what we perceive to be his or her life – because you do not know what happens “behind closed doors” in his or her world.
As I approach the beginning of my 37th year on the earth, I’m facing demons that I wanted to believe – had almost convinced myself – I had vanquished. Demons that continue to haunt me….demons that appeared behind closed doors what feels like lifetimes ago – and, demons that I am keenly aware of, now, have continued to shrink my world years after I thought they were gone.
What I realize – and things have been “working up to” this point for quite some time (more than a year) – is that I wouldn’t wish what I’m going through on my worst enemy. And, more importantly, I don’t want anyone else to go through this ever-shrinking of their world because they have these same demons chasing them in their lives.
The demons have a counter force, which we will call my angels – although, at this time in my life, I struggle to accept that the angels’ actions are a blessing because they have effectively stolen a great deal of my memories for the sake of self-protection. However, I accept that the self-protection must have a purpose and I may not be here today, to share bits and pieces of a painful journey, without those dim and, in many cases, completely missing memories.
In my youth, I made a serious of really dumb decisions – one of them resulted in a very abusive relationship, mentally and physically. After many years – way too many years – I found the courage to leave the relationship….but (most likely) only because my maternal instincts kicked in and I knew I had to protect my children. I do remember the day I realized that something was very wrong, and that my false assumption that all the abuse was directed towards me was, indeed, false. I remember very little before that day – what I remember is either extremely vivid or very dim….but, the memories are, for the most part, buried somewhere deep within me that I’m not able to reach. And, I also have huge gaps in memory that have continued to occur since leaving that situation.
It’s baffled me, for quite some time, why the memory gaps continue. Yet, as I’ve started this battle, on my own (more on that in a moment), I’ve begun to realize that ignoring those demons have set into action forces that continue to put me in similar situations (not the same situations – I have not repeated that sort of long term abusive relationship since that time) in one form or another. What I am beginning to understand, now, is that my “angels” have continued to work to protect me – hiding those times somewhere locked away so that I can continue on – in whatever form that continuance takes.
I’ve joked previously that this is just “age”….but, when I speak with people (which I don’t do that often – at least in a personal manner), I’m finding that it’s not the “norm” to have such large gaps and shortages in your memory at this age. I am rarely able to know, for example, when something happened – even when it’s significant. I can put it in a very general timeline – something like “before 1998″ or “after this child was born” – but, rarely am I able to categorize something in more specific terms (whether it happened in 2008 or 2009, for example, is usually something I’m unable to say – unless the event took place within a few weeks of needing to categorize it).
I’m also finding that this past year has essentially been locked away somewhere in the recesses of my mind – telling me that I’m in that same pattern again – and I know the only way to free myself – allowing me to become the person I was meant to be – is to start confronting these demons and finally put them to rest – not just lock them away, but, actually confront them and come out the other side victorious.
Despite the fact that I love my art, I have come to the difficult realization that the way my business is structured, I have set up a situation where I am constantly in a state of not feeling worthy and hoping for validation of my worth through my customers. And, despite receiving countless “validations” from my customers with glowing comments, I continue to hold my breath every time something ships, because these invisible demons haunt me – reminding me that I wasn’t good enough “back then” to avoid being abused and wasn’t strong enough to leave a bad situation long before I did.
This is where a twisted dichotomy comes in because my brain tells me that those are the most ridiculous notions. That nothing I did or didn’t do at the time – neither who I was or who I wasn’t – deserved that abuse. No one deserves to be abused. But, somewhere within me lies that scared young woman who believed she could change someone else and who also believed, wrongly, that she was directly responsible for every bit of abuse that was directed at her.
I do not believe I was a victim – victims don’t survive. But, to be a survivor, I know that I’ve got to confront these demons from the past – those things that continue to isolate me and prevent me from living the life I was designed to life and continue to hold me in a past that I am unable to fully remember. I do not know where to begin – one thing that is certain is that trust is something that I still need to relearn. The question becomes…”How does one learn to trust when she needs to trust someone to teach her how to trust?”
I find it interesting that in the past 12 years, I have not formed friendships with any of my children’s friends’ parents. It’s hard to get past the judgments that people make when they don’t know what’s happened behind closed doors. And, even if they aren’t making judgments (which most likely they weren’t), it’s hard to accept that knowing that I have judged myself so harshly for what happened. In the end, though, it comes to demons and trust. Those demons keep me isolated from others – even when I’ve been in a rooms full of people. The inability to trust kept me isolated so that I didn’t have to deal with the demons. And the circle will continue to repeat until I am able to step out of it.
I share this today for two reasons; first, I hope that people can resist the urge to label others when they don’t really know what is happening or has happened behind closed doors. And, second, but just as important, I hope this will give someone, somewhere a glimmer of hope that he or she will be able to take back her life from the same demons….and go on to do incredible things with her life.
As for me, I know what I am supposed to do with my life – I just need to connect the dots from here to there. The first step was admitting that these demons are still with me after all these years. I’m working on the second step. I’m not fooling myself into believing that any of this will be easy – if it was easy, I would have dealt with the demons way back then…..but, I DO believe that the strength I showed when I chose to rescue my children and myself from that situation – despite the time it took for me to find that strength – is still in me today. And, that strength is exactly what I will need to see this through and reach the “there” from “here.
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Blue Peanut Butter, Hamster Dancing, & Explosions
By · CommentsWhat doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

Would you eat it?
First, a few weeks ago, I read an article about blue peanut butter. Yes, you read that right – BLUE peanut butter. Apparently, someone decided that Blue Dye No. 2 *may be* chemically similar to compounds that bind to cancer-causing chemicals, limiting their ability to mutate DNA.
To figure this all out (I’m still wondering about how this came up in the first place…..who has the time to think up this stuff?????), they fed Rainbow trout (okay, I think it’s funny that they fed a *rainbow* of colors to something with rainbow in its name…..I’m not a fan of animal testing, or, rather testing on sentient beings since fish apparently aren’t animals, but, still, I can definitely appreciate the irony of it) known carcinogens AND then some of the trout also got one type of dye or another (of course, some got *none*) and they tracked what happened. The experimental process was definitely not as cut and dried as that, but, I don’t want to get too wrapped up in that part of the story.
Now, I’m all for using food to help us with our health…..and, this *is*, after all, the same dye they use for blue m&m’s.
But, Blue peanut butter?
It seems sort of unnatural, doesn’t it? Not to mention….I’m not convinced that eating chemicals on purpose is really that good of an idea if we can avoid it. Obviously, if we are eating m & m’s, we know that we are adding a bunch of unnatural stuff to our diet – at least I don’t think of M & M’s as healthy/health promoting food…..but, there IS natural peanut butter out there without anything added to it….so, if I’m going for a peanut butter fix, I’m thinking that I won’t be picking up the blue peanut butter DESPITE this “fantastic breakthrough”.
If I want to get my blue nutrition (nutrients that only come from blue things), I will find something like a blue berry…which isn’t actually blue – it’s purple. There aren’t any natural foods that are truly blue.
Maybe that’s nature trying to tell us something! Blue is for rainbows and crayons (i.e. not something to eat)….let’s leave it there and find colors that are actually in our foods to promote health!
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Looking for our Daily Journal Writing prompts?
By · CommentsAs part of my “simplify” aspect of my 2009 goals….I’ve chosen to combine my daily journal writing prompts blog (formerly at: http://www.daily-journal-writing-prompts.com/) with this one – that gives me one spot to write each day – instead of many. The goal is, of course, to provide the journal writing prompts as often as possible, amongst musings and other useful (or, at least, entertaining) content.
When I was combining the old blog with this one (using this really neat export/import feature)….something happened – I’m still not sure what happened….but, what it comes down to is that some of the old prompts are gone. And, unfortunately, ALL the old comments are gone. I do regret that the comments are gone – some were really awesome! I’m working on trying to resolve this – but, it’s going to take some time.
Until then, I hope you enjoy the daily journal writing prompts in the new location, and continue to comment and share your thoughts on them as you always have.
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2008 Confessions: A Life not lived
By · CommentsWait…..you may want to read this….it’s not the normal 2008 in review….nor is it a post full of platitudes about the upcoming year. This is a real look at the life of this entrepreneur – one that I haven’t wanted to put into writing, but, feel compelled to do so as I’ve realized I’m not the only one who needs this in writing.
I have to admit, that this is a first for me in quite some time. I’ve been so busy for the past two years, as the business has continued to increase beyond our wildest expectations, I haven’t allowed myself any time to think about the past or the future.
“Oh,” you say, “you’ve been living in the now”. Well, that’s not exactly true either. I honestly don’t know *where* I’ve been living…neither in the past nor the present, nor the future….I’ve been in a weird limbo of sorts. Maybe it’s closest to the truth to admit that I haven’t been living.
Working far too much (this came to a head just over a week ago when I laid my head on the pillow after being awake – and working – for 41 hours straight), living far too little. I’ve allowed my life to get so far out of balance, it’s really not been a life at all.
Maybe you can relate. Maybe you’ve found yourself working way too much, sleeping too little, and not embracing the moment or even being conscious of the moment. Maybe you are burned out, stressed out, and have checked out of your own life.
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Journal Writing Prompt: Time
By · CommentsTime has a wonderful way of showing us what really matters.
~Margaret Peters
Choose a few things that have happened in your life where time has shown you what really matters. In your journal, record one or two of these, paying particular attention to what it was about the event or situation that really made “what really matters” crystal clear. Also, include smaller details such as whether you had the revelation about what really matters immediately or if it was only on further contemplation.
Journal writing prompt bonus: One thing I stress to my kids in the importance of living your priorities. In my mind, this is an excellent way to keep from falling into the hamster wheel – running & running and going nowhere, all the while loosing track of what is really important – what *really matters*. Over the years, I’ve developed little tricks to help keep myself “in check” when it comes to my schedule. So, when I feel myself getting away from what really matters in my world, I can catch myself before I fall into the hamster wheel.
In your journal, keeping in my the situations/events that you wrote about earlier, consider the following. Have those events/situations that made you realize what really matters changed the way you live your day to day life? Do you have to “keep track of yourself” to keep those things that matter most in the forefront of your schedule?
Happy Journaling!
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