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Death of Icons
Posted by: | CommentsThis has definitely been a long week for Hollywood, with the death of three icons (two in the same day). While some deaths may not have been suprising (because the icon had been ill for quite some time), another left the world asking “why?”.
Then, our little state lost its own icon in a tragic death that has no rhyme or reason….and just makes you wonder what makes a guy rip away someone else’s life, leaving everyone else in a pool of his aftermath. I’ve always struggled with this – what happens inside someone’s head that makes it “okay” for him to destroy not only the victim’s life, but, the lives of everyone around them – both the victim and the murderer.
I am confident, in the case of Ed Thomas, that the townspeople of Applington-Parkersburg will get this through this. There are calls for prayers for both the Thomas family and the Becker family….but, gosh, what a terrible thing. And the townsfolk that I’ve watched in interviews – both after the devastating tornado last year and Coach Thomas’ death this year….in general, they appear to be strong Iowans….who pick up the pieces, deal with it, and keep moving forward.
While we are on the topic….when there are MULTIPLE witnesses to a shooting, why is it that the shooter is still presumed innocent? I know that it’s the way our justice system was set up….but, when someone is clearly guilty (the person who commited the crime)….is that really necessary? Maybe if there is more than 20 eyewitnesses (since we all know how unreliable eyewitnesses testimony can be), we can just skip the “potential gunman”, and go straight to – this guy did it.
Back to the losses of our national icons. It kind of makes me angry that everyone continues to bash Michael Jackson after his death. He was strange – eccentric – but, that isn’t criminal. He had a terrible time (from the sounds of it) managing money – again, NOT criminal. And, if you all remember….he was found not guilty of the charges. Weird that many people presume he was guilty when he was found not guilty (without 20+ eyewitnesses)….but, a guy who is CLEARLY guilty of murder (back to the Iowa Icon’s death) is still presumed innocent. How screwed up is that???
No matter what Jackson’s personal issues were – he was eccentric, not very good with money management, not super good at choosing the people around him wisely, terribly misunderstood, frail but not frail, addicted and not addicted, etc….he was a great artist who changed the face of music videos and music itself. I liked his music when I was younger, and was ALWAYS amazed at his artistry.
I think this is more of a case of people not understanding the mind of an artist. They have a tendency to see the world much differently than a non-artistic person….sometimes, people think they are just an “odd duck” and sometimes people think they are a total freak….but, in the end, in my opinion, it has to do with living in a different side of our heads. He was what I considered an “upper level” artist – someone who was not only artistic, but, one who was almost a prodigy. Those artists don’t come along often – but, they *almost always* have “issues”….So, while us common artists are considered a little odd…..the prodigy type artists are “cut-off-my-ear” type odd – again, not criminal….but, that living in that side of your head at that intensity couldn’t possibly make you more normal than the average artist….if anything, it would push you in the other direction. The perfectionism that comes with it….well, that never helps a person emotionally.
And, Farrah….I have to say that I couldn’t imagine going from a “sex icon” to releasing a documentary on your struggle with cancer. But, I think allowing people to see that not-glamorous battle demonstrated, in a big way, her spirit – it was very important to her for people to see that battle that every day people face and the fact that she was a “sex icon” when she rose to fame didn’t stop her from showing the raw ugliness of cancer and the treatment of it. I *didn’t* watch the documentary…when I was flipping through the channels, I saw it, but, watched less than 2 minutes and found myself wondering why someone would watch the whole thing – not because of the documentary, itself…but, more the subject matter. I found the whole idea to be very sad and borderline morbid.
Then, there was Ed McMahon….some people said they were shocked when the news of his death was released….but, I am not sure why. He had not been in good health for several years. EVERYONE – even people who didn’t see Carson/McMahon on the tonight show know that great “Heeeeeeeeeeere’s Johnny!” – and you see people trying to come up with that great one line that everyone will remember them by all the time. McMahon was definitely an original. I’m also sad that he will never come to my door with a check for 10 million dollars! I never thought of McMahon as a “pichman”….but, when I heard him referred to as a great pitchman, I had to agree….his name gave credibility to many things that otherwise wouldn’t have meritted a second glance.
All in all, a very sad week. I hope, as time passes, we will be able to recognize the best of those we have lost and understand that what we see on the surface can easily be misunderstood.
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Cows and world ideologies
Posted by: | CommentsTwo posts in one day? I know…it rarely happens.
On my drive to the city today, I recalled an excellent explanation regarding world government/ideologies/societal structures that I read as a forwarded email years ago (see the last definition below to get a feel for when…it was highly relevant at the time I read this originally). With all the talk of socialism vs. capitalism vs. communism etc, I thought it was appropriate to find the fun and simple explanation and post it to give everyone some simple clarity on where we may be headed.
I do not have the original author information to give credit where credit is due. So, if you happen to know the original source (or *are* the original source), please let me know and I will update the post to reflect the source information.
Read these closely…..and feel free to replace “cows” with property that is more personally relevant to you (or, you can just insert CAR COMPANIES and you will get a really good idea, considering Chrysler and GM’s dispositions as of the time of this post).
Feudalism
You have two cows. Your lord takes some of the milk.
Pure Socialism
You have two cows. The government takes them and puts them in a barn with everyone else’s cows. You have to take care of all the cows. The government gives you all the milk you need.
Bureaucratic Socialism
Your cows are cared for by ex-chicken farmers. You have to take care of the chickens the government took from the chicken farmers. The government gives you as much milk and eggs the regulations say you should need.
Fascism
You have two cows. The government takes both, hires you to take care of them, and sells you the milk.
Pure Communism
You have two cows. Your neighbors help you take care of them, and you all share the milk.
Real World Communism
You share two cows with your neighbors. You and your neighbors bicker about who has the most “ability” and who has the most “need”. Meanwhile, no one works, no one gets any milk, and the cows drop dead of starvation.
Russian Communism
You have two cows. You have to take care of them, but the government takes all the milk. You steal back as much milk as you can and sell it on the black market.
Perestroika
You have two cows. You have to take care of them, but the Mafia takes all the milk. You steal back as much milk as you can and sell it on the “free” market.
Cambodian Communism
You have two cows. The government takes both and shoots you.
Militarianism
You have two cows. The government takes both and drafts you.
Totalitarianism
You have two cows. The government takes them and denies they ever existed. Milk is banned.
Pure Democracy
You have two cows. Your neighbors decide who gets the milk.
Representative Democracy
You have two cows. Your neighbors pick someone to tell you who gets the milk.
British Democracy
You have two cows. You feed them sheeps’ brains and they go mad. The government doesn’t do anything.
Bureaucracy
You have two cows. At first the government regulates what you can feed them and when you can milk them. Then it pays you not to milk them. Then it takes both, shoots one, milks the other and pours the milk down the drain. Then it requires you to fill out forms accounting for the missing cows.
Pure Anarchy
You have two cows. Either you sell the milk at a fair price or your neighbors try to take the cows and kill you.
Pure Capitalism
You have two cows. You sell one and buy a bull.
Capitalism
You don’t have any cows. The bank will not lend you money to buy cows, because you don’t have any cows to put up as collateral.
Enviromentalism
You have two cows. The government bans you from milking or killing them.
Political Correctness
You are associated with (the concept of “ownership” is a symbol of the phallo centric, war mongering, intolerant past) two differently – aged (but no less valuable to society) bovines of non-specified gender.
Surrealism
You have two giraffes. The government requires you to take harmonica lessons.
Enronism
You have two cows. You borrow 80% of the forward value of the two cows from your bank, then buy another cow with 5% down and the rest financed by the seller on a note callable if your market cap goes below $20B at a rate 2 times prime. You sell the three cows to your publicly listed company, using letters of credit opened by your brother-in-law at the bank, then execute a debt/equity swap with an associated general offer so you get four cows back, with a tax exemption for five cows. The milk rights of six cows are transferred via an intermediary to a Cayman Island company secretly owned by the majority shareholder, who sells the rights to seven cows back to your listed company. The annual report says the company owns eight cows, with an option on one more. This transaction process is upheld by your independent auditor with no negative balance sheet implications, followed by a press release that announces that Enron, as a major owner of cows may begin trading cows via a new internet site.
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Behind Closed Doors
Posted by: | CommentsIf there is one thing I understand to the core of my being, it is that a person should never make judgments of someone else based on what we perceive to be his or her life – because you do not know what happens “behind closed doors” in his or her world.
As I approach the beginning of my 37th year on the earth, I’m facing demons that I wanted to believe – had almost convinced myself – I had vanquished. Demons that continue to haunt me….demons that appeared behind closed doors what feels like lifetimes ago – and, demons that I am keenly aware of, now, have continued to shrink my world years after I thought they were gone.
What I realize – and things have been “working up to” this point for quite some time (more than a year) – is that I wouldn’t wish what I’m going through on my worst enemy. And, more importantly, I don’t want anyone else to go through this ever-shrinking of their world because they have these same demons chasing them in their lives.
The demons have a counter force, which we will call my angels – although, at this time in my life, I struggle to accept that the angels’ actions are a blessing because they have effectively stolen a great deal of my memories for the sake of self-protection. However, I accept that the self-protection must have a purpose and I may not be here today, to share bits and pieces of a painful journey, without those dim and, in many cases, completely missing memories.
In my youth, I made a serious of really dumb decisions – one of them resulted in a very abusive relationship, mentally and physically. After many years – way too many years – I found the courage to leave the relationship….but (most likely) only because my maternal instincts kicked in and I knew I had to protect my children. I do remember the day I realized that something was very wrong, and that my false assumption that all the abuse was directed towards me was, indeed, false. I remember very little before that day – what I remember is either extremely vivid or very dim….but, the memories are, for the most part, buried somewhere deep within me that I’m not able to reach. And, I also have huge gaps in memory that have continued to occur since leaving that situation.
It’s baffled me, for quite some time, why the memory gaps continue. Yet, as I’ve started this battle, on my own (more on that in a moment), I’ve begun to realize that ignoring those demons have set into action forces that continue to put me in similar situations (not the same situations – I have not repeated that sort of long term abusive relationship since that time) in one form or another. What I am beginning to understand, now, is that my “angels” have continued to work to protect me – hiding those times somewhere locked away so that I can continue on – in whatever form that continuance takes.
I’ve joked previously that this is just “age”….but, when I speak with people (which I don’t do that often – at least in a personal manner), I’m finding that it’s not the “norm” to have such large gaps and shortages in your memory at this age. I am rarely able to know, for example, when something happened – even when it’s significant. I can put it in a very general timeline – something like “before 1998″ or “after this child was born” – but, rarely am I able to categorize something in more specific terms (whether it happened in 2008 or 2009, for example, is usually something I’m unable to say – unless the event took place within a few weeks of needing to categorize it).
I’m also finding that this past year has essentially been locked away somewhere in the recesses of my mind – telling me that I’m in that same pattern again – and I know the only way to free myself – allowing me to become the person I was meant to be – is to start confronting these demons and finally put them to rest – not just lock them away, but, actually confront them and come out the other side victorious.
Despite the fact that I love my art, I have come to the difficult realization that the way my business is structured, I have set up a situation where I am constantly in a state of not feeling worthy and hoping for validation of my worth through my customers. And, despite receiving countless “validations” from my customers with glowing comments, I continue to hold my breath every time something ships, because these invisible demons haunt me – reminding me that I wasn’t good enough “back then” to avoid being abused and wasn’t strong enough to leave a bad situation long before I did.
This is where a twisted dichotomy comes in because my brain tells me that those are the most ridiculous notions. That nothing I did or didn’t do at the time – neither who I was or who I wasn’t – deserved that abuse. No one deserves to be abused. But, somewhere within me lies that scared young woman who believed she could change someone else and who also believed, wrongly, that she was directly responsible for every bit of abuse that was directed at her.
I do not believe I was a victim – victims don’t survive. But, to be a survivor, I know that I’ve got to confront these demons from the past – those things that continue to isolate me and prevent me from living the life I was designed to life and continue to hold me in a past that I am unable to fully remember. I do not know where to begin – one thing that is certain is that trust is something that I still need to relearn. The question becomes…”How does one learn to trust when she needs to trust someone to teach her how to trust?”
I find it interesting that in the past 12 years, I have not formed friendships with any of my children’s friends’ parents. It’s hard to get past the judgments that people make when they don’t know what’s happened behind closed doors. And, even if they aren’t making judgments (which most likely they weren’t), it’s hard to accept that knowing that I have judged myself so harshly for what happened. In the end, though, it comes to demons and trust. Those demons keep me isolated from others – even when I’ve been in a rooms full of people. The inability to trust kept me isolated so that I didn’t have to deal with the demons. And the circle will continue to repeat until I am able to step out of it.
I share this today for two reasons; first, I hope that people can resist the urge to label others when they don’t really know what is happening or has happened behind closed doors. And, second, but just as important, I hope this will give someone, somewhere a glimmer of hope that he or she will be able to take back her life from the same demons….and go on to do incredible things with her life.
As for me, I know what I am supposed to do with my life – I just need to connect the dots from here to there. The first step was admitting that these demons are still with me after all these years. I’m working on the second step. I’m not fooling myself into believing that any of this will be easy – if it was easy, I would have dealt with the demons way back then…..but, I DO believe that the strength I showed when I chose to rescue my children and myself from that situation – despite the time it took for me to find that strength – is still in me today. And, that strength is exactly what I will need to see this through and reach the “there” from “here.
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Blue Peanut Butter, Hamster Dancing, & Explosions
Posted by: | CommentsWhat doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
Would you eat it?
First, a few weeks ago, I read an article about blue peanut butter. Yes, you read that right – BLUE peanut butter. Apparently, someone decided that Blue Dye No. 2 *may be* chemically similar to compounds that bind to cancer-causing chemicals, limiting their ability to mutate DNA.
To figure this all out (I’m still wondering about how this came up in the first place…..who has the time to think up this stuff?????), they fed Rainbow trout (okay, I think it’s funny that they fed a *rainbow* of colors to something with rainbow in its name…..I’m not a fan of animal testing, or, rather testing on sentient beings since fish apparently aren’t animals, but, still, I can definitely appreciate the irony of it) known carcinogens AND then some of the trout also got one type of dye or another (of course, some got *none*) and they tracked what happened. The experimental process was definitely not as cut and dried as that, but, I don’t want to get too wrapped up in that part of the story.
Now, I’m all for using food to help us with our health…..and, this *is*, after all, the same dye they use for blue m&m’s.
But, Blue peanut butter?
It seems sort of unnatural, doesn’t it? Not to mention….I’m not convinced that eating chemicals on purpose is really that good of an idea if we can avoid it. Obviously, if we are eating m & m’s, we know that we are adding a bunch of unnatural stuff to our diet – at least I don’t think of M & M’s as healthy/health promoting food…..but, there IS natural peanut butter out there without anything added to it….so, if I’m going for a peanut butter fix, I’m thinking that I won’t be picking up the blue peanut butter DESPITE this “fantastic breakthrough”.
If I want to get my blue nutrition (nutrients that only come from blue things), I will find something like a blue berry…which isn’t actually blue – it’s purple. There aren’t any natural foods that are truly blue.
Maybe that’s nature trying to tell us something! Blue is for rainbows and crayons (i.e. not something to eat)….let’s leave it there and find colors that are actually in our foods to promote health!
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Looking for our Daily Journal Writing prompts?
Posted by: | CommentsAs part of my “simplify” aspect of my 2009 goals….I’ve chosen to combine my daily journal writing prompts blog (formerly at: http://www.daily-journal-writing-prompts.com/) with this one – that gives me one spot to write each day – instead of many. The goal is, of course, to provide the journal writing prompts as often as possible, amongst musings and other useful (or, at least, entertaining) content.
When I was combining the old blog with this one (using this really neat export/import feature)….something happened – I’m still not sure what happened….but, what it comes down to is that some of the old prompts are gone. And, unfortunately, ALL the old comments are gone. I do regret that the comments are gone – some were really awesome! I’m working on trying to resolve this – but, it’s going to take some time.
Until then, I hope you enjoy the daily journal writing prompts in the new location, and continue to comment and share your thoughts on them as you always have.
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2008 Confessions: A Life not lived
Posted by: | CommentsWait…..you may want to read this….it’s not the normal 2008 in review….nor is it a post full of platitudes about the upcoming year. This is a real look at the life of this entrepreneur – one that I haven’t wanted to put into writing, but, feel compelled to do so as I’ve realized I’m not the only one who needs this in writing.
I have to admit, that this is a first for me in quite some time. I’ve been so busy for the past two years, as the business has continued to increase beyond our wildest expectations, I haven’t allowed myself any time to think about the past or the future.
“Oh,” you say, “you’ve been living in the now”. Well, that’s not exactly true either. I honestly don’t know *where* I’ve been living…neither in the past nor the present, nor the future….I’ve been in a weird limbo of sorts. Maybe it’s closest to the truth to admit that I haven’t been living.
Working far too much (this came to a head just over a week ago when I laid my head on the pillow after being awake – and working – for 41 hours straight), living far too little. I’ve allowed my life to get so far out of balance, it’s really not been a life at all.
Maybe you can relate. Maybe you’ve found yourself working way too much, sleeping too little, and not embracing the moment or even being conscious of the moment. Maybe you are burned out, stressed out, and have checked out of your own life.
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Journal Writing Prompt: Time
Posted by: | CommentsTime has a wonderful way of showing us what really matters.
~Margaret Peters
Choose a few things that have happened in your life where time has shown you what really matters. In your journal, record one or two of these, paying particular attention to what it was about the event or situation that really made “what really matters” crystal clear. Also, include smaller details such as whether you had the revelation about what really matters immediately or if it was only on further contemplation.
Journal writing prompt bonus: One thing I stress to my kids in the importance of living your priorities. In my mind, this is an excellent way to keep from falling into the hamster wheel – running & running and going nowhere, all the while loosing track of what is really important – what *really matters*. Over the years, I’ve developed little tricks to help keep myself “in check” when it comes to my schedule. So, when I feel myself getting away from what really matters in my world, I can catch myself before I fall into the hamster wheel.
In your journal, keeping in my the situations/events that you wrote about earlier, consider the following. Have those events/situations that made you realize what really matters changed the way you live your day to day life? Do you have to “keep track of yourself” to keep those things that matter most in the forefront of your schedule?
Happy Journaling!
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Journal Writing Prompt: Belief
Posted by: | CommentsWe do not believe if we do not live and work according to our belief.
~Heidi Willis
In your journal, ponder today’s quote.? Do you agree?? Disagree?? Is her idea too simple?? Too black and white?? Explore this in your journal.
Journal writing prompt bonus: Examine your own life.? Do you live and work according to your belief?? Or, do you see work and life and separate and prefer to keep your belief confined to one area or the other?? Do you feel that you believe, regardless of the separation?? Or do you feel your belief is stronger because it influences all areas of your life?
Happy Journaling!
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Customer Service 101 – for all businesses large and small
Posted by: | CommentsToday, I had to do something that I simply dread. I mean, this is worse than trying on swimsuits after a long cold winter!
Jean shopping.
I tried to put it off as long as I could – honestly, I did! But, with the temperatures what they are, and a 7:30 football game tomorrow evening (read: the sun will be down!), I didn’t think I could put it off another day.
So, this afternoon, I took a few hours off work to take care of the dreaded task. Literally, I had 2 hours in my schedule to do this. The trip to the mall is 45 minutes one way. So, I had exactly 30 minutes to get in, try on jeans, find one or more pairs I like, and get out.
I’m more of a hunter than a gatherer when it comes to shopping for myself. So, while the task of finding the right pair of jean in a matter of 30 minutes was daunting – an ambitious goal, to say the least – I was quite determined to accomplish this mission.
Before I left, I spent a little time researching jeans. It’s been quite a while since I went jean shopping (which is why I was in the position of urgently needing jeans for tomorrow night) – partially because I haven’t been overly impressed with the recent “styles” that were overflowing from every store that carried jeans (when I say recent, I mean the last 4 or 5 YEARS). Flare jeans are just not very flattering on me – I seriously don’t need to look like I have tiny little knees and giant calves! Then, there’s been this whole “skinny jean” thing. Honestly, I don’t know what possesses some manufacturers! I am a thin woman….but, my thighs are more athletic than skinny jeans allow. I think I would have to quit eating for several years to get rid of enough muscle to wear skinny jeans.
Okay…back to the researching. There is a site that I had heard quite a bit about – www.Zafu.com. Now, I heard it was *the* place to go online and find the perfect pair of jeans for you. I’ve even had some friends who use it and swear by it. However, I wasn’t terribly excited by my results. I think part of my disappointment was that I wanted to find jeans I could actually go to a store to try on. First, I didn’t have time to order online and get them by tomorrow night. Second, jeans, in my opinion, are really something that is best tried on BEFORE you buy them. I do have a few brands that I know I can go to every time and be happy with them. I know exactly what size I need in those brands, I know they offer “long” in those sizes (there is nothing worse than your ankles sticking out from under your jeans!), and I know they are consistent in quality. Zafu did give me a few options in those brands….BUT, it looked like the only way those particular cuts were available was online.
So, I made a plan on my way to the mall. I would go to The Gap first – the Gap produces consistent quality and I know that I like them. I know what size I need at the Gap AND I know that they will have at least one cut that isn’t the dreaded “skinny jean”. The second stop would be The Buckle. LOVE the Buckle (at least I did before today….okay, even though they ticked me off, I still love the brands the Buckle offers….so, I will probably go back again – DESPITE my time in the store today).
The RIGHT way to serve your customers: The Gap
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Journal Writing Prompt: Elephants
Posted by: | CommentsWhen you have got an elephant by the hind leg, and he is trying to run away, it’s best to let him run.
~Abraham Lincoln
Freeform journaling exercise…..? In your journal, simply take this quote and “run with it” – write about whatever comes to mind – allow your writing to wander in whatever direction it may want to go, without trying to stay “on topic”.
(No bonus prompt today….today is really about letting yourself go in your writing – with little rules or direction….sometimes it is nice to allow yourself to have a “mind dump”.? If you choose to comment here, please keep the political comments to a minimum….I know this particular quote really lends itself to political commentary and while I enjoy the mental jousting…I don’t want this to become a topic that gets way too heated.)
Enjoy!
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Journal writing prompt: Purpose
Posted by: | Comments“This is our purpose:? to make as meaninful as possible this life that has been bestowed upon us; to live in such a way that we may be proud of ourselves; to act in such a way that some part of us lives on.”
~ Oswald Spengler
In your opinion, is this our life purpose?? Does Mr. Spengler’s quote fall short or expect too much? Reflect on this in your journal.
Daily journal writing prompt bonus: Some people (including me) believe that everyone has something unique that they were put here to do….their “life purpose”, if you will.? Some people seem to know this from birth on….while others of us seem to spend alot of time trying to figure out what it is.? What group do you fall into?? Have you always known your life purpose or did you search for a long time to find it?? Do you know your life purpose?? If so, what is it and what are 3 things you can do today to work toward it?? Write about it in your journal.
Happy Journaling!
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Journal Writing Prompt: Liberty
Posted by: | CommentsSo this is how liberty dies. With thunderous applause.
~George Lucas, Senator Amidala in Star Wars: Episode III: Revenge of the Sith (2005)
US movie director & screenwriter (1944 – )
In your journal, consider today’s quote in a today-oriented context. What do you suppose George Lucas (via the Star Wars character) means by the quote? Do you see this happening in today’s society? Alternatively, is the fictitious character simply stating an untruth?
Journal writing prompt bonus: Sometimes, it’s easy to take our liberties from granted. In your journal, write out a short list of the liberties that you value most in your life. Can you envision a time when they may be gone? If so, imagine the context in which it could be taken? How do you suppose it would be presented to you – something “for your own good”? A life lesson? Write about it in your journal.
Happy journaling!
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Journal writing prompt: Adventure?
Posted by: | CommentsAdventure is just bad planning.
~ Roald Amundsen
Consider today’s quote…do you agree or disagree – is adventure just bad planning?? Or, is it a vital part of this thing we call “life”?
Journal writing prompt bonus: Using today’s quote as a starting point, think about your life.? ? ? How do you view your life?? Is it safe and well planned?? Or, is it adventurous and fly-by-the seat of your pants?? Or, is it somewhere in the middle?
For me, while most people wouldn’t see my life as adventurous…I do feel like life, itself is an adventure – planned or not.? How do you see life in general?? Is it an adventure?? Explore the questions and your answers in your journal.
Happy journaling!
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Instructions for Life
Posted by: | CommentsI received this in email a few days ago…and really thought it was worth sharing. The email (which is one of those crazy “you must forward this to x people or else” emails) attributed the following to the Dalai Lama. For the record, I don’t know if that’s right or not – but, the following instructions are so true, I decided to pass them along without actually knowing whether the email was correct with the source or not.
- Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risks.
- When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.
- Follow the three R’s
- Respect for self;
- Respect for others and
- Responsibility for all your actions
- Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
- Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly
- Don’t let a little dispute injure a great relationship.
- When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
- Spend some time alone every day
- open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.
- Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
- Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back. you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.
- A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
- In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.
- Share your knowledge. It is a way to achieve immortality.
- Be gentle with the earth.
- Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.
- Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
- Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
- Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.
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What I learned from Build A Bear Workshop
Posted by: | CommentsYesterday, I had the pleasure to take my “kids”, some of my younger daughter’s friends, 2 of my nieces, and both of my great nieces to Build a Bear Workshop to celebrate my younger daughter’s upcoming birthday. I wasn’t so sure about the Build a Bear party to begin with – Fiona had been given the choice between going to Libby Lou or Build a Bear for her party with friends. She has always been enamored with Build a Bear (who wouldn’t be – their colors are so inviting and lively). So, she chose Build a Bear, and, wanting to make her 6th birthday party very memorable, I agreed. I really thought it would be great to be able to give the guests gifts (their own bear) on her birthday. AND, of course, I love the whole “my bear is like no one else’s bear – custom- aspect of the entire thing).
One thing you should know about me is that I’m always working. Even when I’m playing, my brain is processing everything around me in such a way that if something should happen to be useful for work, I’m all over it…mentally noting it for later research or implementation. (Take a look at our zoo pictures from last year’s summer getaway for more “evidence” of everything being a source of business learning or inspiration for me).
Now, I was somewhat familiar with Build a Bear Workshop’s “story” from a show I had seen in the past. But, it had sort of fallen into those dark, cobwebbed recesses of my mind until yesterday when we went for our Build a Bear Experience. It’s a neat story….you should really check it out.
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Presenting our custom leather book to the Smithsonian
Posted by: | CommentsA lot of you have asked about my recent trip to the Smithsonian. I’ve promised to share photos and give more details once I had “decompressed” from the trip. Since it’s been a few weeks and I’ve still not absorbed the entire trip yet….I thought I better post before everyone forgot!
For those of you who didn’t hear, in summary, I was contacted about a month ago by the Smithsonian Institute in Washington D.C. to create a custom leather guest book (journal) to be used at the “Bhutan: Land of the Thunder Dragon” program during the Smithsonian’s 42nd Annual FolkLife Festival. You can read more about the order, the personal invitation from the curator of the Bhutan program, and the custom leather book presentation (to the Prince of Bhutan – His Royal Highness PRince Jigyel Ugyen Wangchuck), as well as the custom leather book’s final destination – with the King of Bhutan – the Fifth Druk Gyalpo His Majesty King Jigme Khesar Namgyel Wangchuck, at the Saving Grace Enterprises Corporate site: Lead Artist Present Custom Leather Book for Smithsonian.
For personal commentary and even more photos, you can visit my album of the trip at Flicker: Photos and commentary from my Smithsonian trip
For me, this was really the trip of a lifetime in many ways. Not only did I get the opportunity to create something for the Smithsonian, but, I also got to meet a “real life” prince. It wasn’t until the evening after the ceremony that it hit me that I just met a prince! That’s certainly something that not everyone can say!
He was a very kind man. I am not sure how he can see – I definitely was blinded by the constantly flashing camera bulbs during the ceremony. It was sort of like having lightning flashing 2 feet in front of your eyes for an extended period of time. I asked him, during a moment of udder blindness if he ever got tired of all the pictures and pomp all the time….and he simply smiled and said “I’m getting used to it.”
That was a fair answer. And, I wondered at the time if one could ever really get used to it. Of course, I’m sort of a recluse anyway….so, maybe it would change if I got out more.
We were privileged to be able to stay at the same hotel as the festival participants…which meant that we could interact with the Bhutanese people (as well as those from NASA and Texas). I have to say that I was always *thrilled* to see anyone from Bhutan during our hotel stay. They were always very nice and were happy to chat about anything. They were very proud of their country, as well – and in a day and age when pride in one’s country (particularly when you are living in the U.S. and listening to the standard/drive-by media) seems to be fleeting (in actuality, I don’t think it is….but, the appearance, most likely, to the “outside world” may be quite different – think about what they see – the fleeting glances at our culture, and it wouldn’t be surprisingly if they did believe we weren’t proud of our own country)…it was very heartwarming.
Additionally, the Bhutanese taught me some valuable things through their actions and interactions. Mind you – we had everyone from Buddhist Monks to Bhutanese artists and farmers at the hotel – so, it was a real cross section of their society. You could easily see that “connection” was important to them.
Connection to one another. To “home” (Bhutan), family, spirituality. To the arts – of a wide variety. They were obviously interconnected in many ways…and obviously valued that connection. I would love to visit Bhutan someday and really immerse myself in their culture. I’m sure there are many things they could teach all of us – and I would love to learn.
I think that is one of the main things I took home with me. The importance of connection.
I also brought home a renewed sense of value in art. In Bhutan, they have what’s called “Zorig Chusum” which are the 13 traditional arts that are terribly important to the people of Bhutan – including the special techniques that are used to create their magnificent art.
I spent some time in their art areas….I was totally enthralled by not only the reverence with which they treated their craft…but, also the reverence of their art itself. I think that is one thing that is very difficult for me in American society – we don’t really value art (unless it’s ancient art)….nor do we hold it up to any importance. We almost have come to a point where one could argue we value science over all else. It’s sort of sad, really. Science is important…..BUT, we shouldn’t revert to the half brained pre-renaissance thinking that only arithmetic, geometry, astronomy, music, grammar, logic, and rhetoric were accepted as the noble disciplines – “the foundation of knowledge”. Art, in all its forms (well, almost all its forms…I think we’ve come to define “art” terribly loosely…some “art” – I just don’t see…particularly “pop” art), is a noble discipline that enriches the mind, body, and spirit and often walks hand in hand with other “noble disciplines”.
Da Vinci is quoted as saying “study the science of art and the art of science.” Truly, there’s no separation between the two.
Okay…back to my point. I was really overwhelmed by both the event (the presentation of the book to the Prince of Bhutan), the way it came to me (the Smithsonian ordering the book), where it was going (to the King of Bhutan), AND the interactions and observations of the Bhutanese delegation – to the point that I’m still working on processing everything….while still attempting to work and keep up.
I hope you enjoy the photos and sharing “the experience”. And, in your free time, you may want to learn more about Bhutan and her people….its an incredible culture that, instead of throwing itself headlong into the world….has slowly integrated the world into its culture, and has magnificently preserved its core foundations during the entire process.
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Journal Writing Prompt: Character
Posted by: | Comments“Character – the willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life – is the source from which self respect springs.”
~Joan Didion
In your journal, ponder today’s quote.? Is the source of self respect a willingness to accept responsibility for your own life?? Or is there more to it?? Does that willingness to accept responsibility for your own life play a role in self respect?? Do you agree that character is defined as the willingness to accept responsibility for your own life?? Why or why not?
Journal writing prompt bonus:? In your journal, list the qualities that a person has that you consider a person of character?? Are these qualities the same for everyone you consider persons of character?? Is it different, according to the person?? What is your internal definition of a person with character?
Happy Journaling!
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Journal Writing Prompt: Miracles
Posted by: | Comments“When a miracle happens, even if not to you, it’s nature is to naturally expand.? You can almost feel the warmth on your face.”
~Hugh Elliott
In your journal, consider the topic of miracles.? Do you believe that miracles really exist?? Or are they a folklore-ish remnant of days long gone?? What constitutes a miracle in your mind?? Is it something as extraordinary as one cell becoming a complete being, leaving a water filled environment and taking its first breath?? Or, does it have to be a sea parting or the dead coming back to life?
Daily journal writing prompt bonus:? Personally, I believe that there are miracles that happen around us every single day.? The problem is that we just don’t take notice!? In your journal, think about this idea – do you think there is some truth in it?? Have you ever witnessed a miracle? What was it?? If you haven’t, do you know someone who has claimed to have witnessed a miracle?? Write about that.
Happy Journaling!
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Journal Writing Prompt: Inferno
Posted by: | Comments“Blaze with the fire that is never extinguished.”
~Luisa Sigea
In your journal, consider today’s quote.? Have you experienced blazing with a fire that is never extinguished (I suppose, if we are taking this more technically, that would mean that you are still experiencing this)?? Have you ever blazed with a fire that *felt* like it would never extinguish, but, it did?? What were the circumstances surrounding it?
Daily journal writing prompt bonus:? While I believe all of us would love to experience blazing with a fire that would never extinguish (at least it sounds good, right?), what do you think the upside to that state would be?? Would there be a downside?? Whether you’ve experienced it in the past or not, would you want to experience it in the future?? If so, how can you go about bringing yourself to that state?
Happy Journaling!
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Journal Writing Prompt: Success
Posted by: | Comments“The secret of all success is to know how to deny yourself. Prove that you can control yourself, and you are an educated man; and without this all other education is good for nothing.”
~R. D. Hitchcock
In your journal, write about today’s quote.? Do you agree or disagree? Is success really all about denial and self control?
Daily journal writing prompt bonus:? Whether you agree or disagree with today’s quote, in your journal, reflect on your own success (in all areas of life) in light of today’s quote.? Does it “prove” or “disprove” the quote?? Is there more to it?
Happy Journaling!
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Journal Writing Prompt: Peace
Posted by: | Comments“Every day we do things, we are things, that have to do with peace.? If we are aware of our life…, our way of looking at things, we will know how to make peace right in the moment, we are alive.”
~Thich Nhat Hanh
In your journal, recount your day (or recount yesterday if you are journaling in the mornings).? Look for little encounters throughout your day, and list them.? The list doesn’t need to be long – maybe 10 encounters or so.? These can be anything from going through the checkout at a local store, passing a co-worker, or talking on the phone with someone.? If you are struggling to come up with 10 things, think hard on this – usually we have hundreds of encounters a day…most are just so commonplace that we don’t even take notice.
Now, for each encounter, write a short description.? Did you smile at the checker?? Say a kind word?? Were you gruff and hurried?
Next, evaluate each encounter in the light of today’s quote.? Was it a peace-promoting encounter?? If it was not, why not?? How could you change the encounter to make it a peace promoter?
Daily journal writing prompt:? I consider myself, most of the time, a “peace activist”.? No, I’m not carrying a placard promoting the usual peace activist causes, nor am I participating in marches.? However, I do make an effort to be kind and promote peace one person at a time.? Every interaction, no matter how insignificant gives you the opportunity to potentially change someone else’s entire day.? Think about it – have you ever had someone yell at you (or be gruff) first thing in the morning, and your entire day seems to go downhill?? What about the flip side – have you ever had someone say something kind and it “picked you up” for the entire day?? I really believe that is how we all can be “peace activists” – regardless of political affiliation or our opinions on hot button topics.
In your journal, write about a few things you can do today (or tomorrow) that will promote peace for those around you.? Make a plan to do them…if you need to, write them out on a slip of paper that you will carry with you – not so much to refer to, but, just to remind you of your goal.? Come back to this entry after you carry out some of those things, and write about how you felt and how you suspect it made that person feel (if you didn’t get immediate oral feedback).
Happy Journaling!
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Journal writing prompt: Focus
Posted by: | Comments“The ability to focus attention on important things is a defining characteristic of intelligence.”
~Robert J. Shiller? ? ?
Today’s journal writing prompt seems pretty straightforward.? In a society where so many people seem to have multiple warning signs of ADHD, what do you think?? Is the ability to focus attention on important things a defining characteristic of intelligence?? If so, are you concerned about the future of our society in the age of our short-attention span media, get it now lifestyles?? Write about it in your journal.
Daily journal writing prompt bonus:? Quite often, I find myself not only focusing my attention on important things, but, also on not-so-important things.? It feels like, at times, “shiny objects” are much more interesting and attention grabbing for my mind than anything else.? Actually, not often, but, at times, I feel like my entire day is spent in a series of attention grabbing nothingness.? Now, I understand that the longer I allow myself to live a life as a professional artist, the closer I get to insanity (maybe this is just the warning signs!), however, I do know many people (who aren’t professional artists) who live the same way – with their dedicated, focussed attention moving from one thing to the next sequentially throughout the day.? Some of the people I’m thinking of are also quite intelligent.
So, I wonder, in your opinion, what do you think the sequential-focussed-attention on important and not-so-important things means.? Is it a defining characteristic of higher intelligence?? Or, is it insanity in the making?? Can you relate to this in your own life?? Write about it in your journal.
Happy Journaling!
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Journal Writing Prompt: Understanding
Posted by: | Comments“Before you contradict an old man, my fair friend, you should endeavor to understand him.”
~George Santayana
It’s not uncommon, in our society, to (at least occasionally)? quit listening to opposing viewpoints – no matter who’s view it is – in defense of our own views.? What seems to be quite uncommon (at times) is to take a moment to attempt understanding of the other viewpoint, before we stop listening or start defending.? In your journal, consider today’s quote.? Do you find yourself contradicting others (whether they are older or younger than you) prior to endeavoring to understand the viewpoint?? Do you think this is a defensive move on your part or what do you suppose causes this reaction in your own life?
Daily journal writing prompt bonus:? In matters of politics & religion, this contradiction prior to the endeavor to understand seem to be quite rampant.? We tend to shut down when the other viewpoint is espoused, instead of really listening and endeavoring to understand before espousing our own views.? With this being a political “season” (okay, I know, I know, it’s come to a point where it’s more often a political season than not with campaigns growing longer and longer and our “downtime” between them shorter and shorter), I would like you to think about a recent political event, speech, debate, etc, where you had an opposing view to the candidate – and, instead of endeavoring to understand his or her position, you “tuned out”.? In your journal write about it.? Was this a “classic” issue or is it something that stems from more recent world events?? What is your viewpoint?? What was the candidates?? Is his or her viewpoint one that, in light of today’s quote, you should have explored further to endeavor to understand his or her views?
Happy Journaling!
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Journal Writing Prompt: Happy pills
Posted by: | Comments“It is impossible to walk rapidly and be unhappy.”
~Dr. Howard Murphy
In your journal, consider today’s quote.? Do your experience with walking rapidly seem to confirm Dr. Murphy’s assertion?? What about walking rapidly due to lateness – what sort of effect does that have on your mood (if any)?? Do you make an effort to walk rapidly (or jog or run) daily?? If so, does it keep your mood elevated?? If not, why not & do you have some other activity to boost your “happy level”?? What is it?
Daily journal writing prompt bonus: I am the type of person who needs a “healthy dose” of cardiovascular work every single day – I know that it keeps my mood elevated & my creativity levels high (which is essential when one is an artist!). So, whether it’s walking (alone, in groups, or with the dogs), rollerblading (which, quite honestly, I don’t do often), running, or some sort of cardio type DVD or class, I get in at least 30 minutes to an hour every morning.? It’s like my daily happy pill.
I know that, for others, the happy pill comes in different forms – such as reading a bit or painting or sewing….What does your happy pill look like?? Describe it in your journal, along with what effects that activity has on your mood and what effect not taking that “happy pill” has on your mood (if any).
Happy Journaling!
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Journal Writing Prompt: Safety vs. Purpose
Posted by: | Comments“A ship in port is safe, but that’s not what ships are built for.”
~Grace Murray Hopper
In your journal, consider today’s quote in the framework of your life.? Sometimes, we are encouraged to play it safe – in work, in life.? However, we must weigh the security of that safety with what we were “built for” – our purpose.? Sacrificing our purpose to stay in port and be safe can be damaging to our minds, bodies, and spirits.? Do you feel like you are staying in the port of your life or are your actively pursuing what you were “built for”?? Explore this in your journal.
Daily journal writing prompt bonus:? At times, we may be staying in the port of life in some areas of our lives while actively pursuing what we are “built for” in other areas.? In your journal, take a good look at your life.? Write about 1)whether you are staying in the safety of the port in some areas but not others 2)The costs and benefits of doing so (make sure to include the non-tangibles in this) 3)If this is a state you consciously chose or whether you did it without realizing that you were doing it.
Happy Journaling!
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Journal Writing Prompt: Embrace life
Posted by: | Comments“But pain… seems to me an insufficient reason not to embrace life.? Being dead is quite painless.? Pain, like time, is going to come on regardless.? Question is, what glorious moments can you win from life in addition to the pain?”
~ Lois McMaster Bujold
Today’s quote provoked some mixed feelings for me.? As someone who was diagnosed with a chronic, incurable illness years ago, and quite literally felt like guinea pig number one for my doctors, but, through the experience learned life lessons that changed me forever, this was bitter sweet.? On the other hand, as someone who has successfully implemented natural ways to keep my body healthy since the diagnosis, I was quite opposed to other parts of this quote.? So, if you feel yourself fighting with parts of today’s quote while agreeing with others (or vehemently opposing the whole thing), please bear with it….I believe this quote can provide everyone valuable self-insight.
If you’ve experienced intense pain – whether it be physical, mental, or spiritual, you know that it can be difficult to embrace life in the midst of it.? However, when we are in the midst of pain, the most valuable life lessons can be learned if we just embrace the circumstance and allow ourselves the opportunity to find those lessons.? What life lessons have you learned through pain (of any origin)?? Did you find it difficult to embrace life while dealing with pain?? Why or why not?? What do you suppose the author meant when she wrote about embracing life?? Write about this in your journal.
Journal writing prompt bonus:? For me, I do not believe that pain is going to come regardless.? I’ve known people who lived a life without pain, who took care of themselves – mind, body, and spirit, and refused to accept that pain was an inescapable aspect of life.? What do you think?? Is pain a mandatory part of life?? Are there ways to embrace life without experiencing pain?? How would one go about this?? Consider this in your journal….expanding on each point as necessary.
Happy Journaling!
P.S.? Did you know that the author of our prompts, Dee Phipps, is a finalist for the Al Marks Inventive Mind Small business grants and needs your vote?? Please visit her website, DeePhipps.com, read more about the Al Marks Inventive Mind Small Business grant and vote before August 11th at midnight, pacific!
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Journal Writing Prompt: Growth
Posted by: | Comments“Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage.? The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict.”
~William Ellery Channing
In your journal, write about a recent difficult that arose.? Did it rouse your spirit or did it discourage you?? Why or why not?
Daily journal writing prompt bonus:? I know with some difficulties, particularly when they are out of your control, are quite discouraging.? I experienced a situation like that recently – it was completely out of my hands…leaving me with a helpless, frustrated, and, yes, discouraged feeling.? However, that same situation did make my spirit stronger, and taught me some life-lessons that will stay with me and help me avoid a similar situation in the future.? Have you faced a situation like that recently?? What was the life lesson you learned?? How do you feel you grew due to that situation?
Happy Journaling!
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Journal Writing Prompt: The secret of happiness
Posted by: | Comments“The secret of happiness is not in what one likes to do, but, in what one has to do.”
~ James M. Barrie
In your journal, explore today’s quote. What do you think James Barrie means when he says that the secret of happiness is is in what one has to do? Do you think it has something to do with finding joy in those daily necessary tasks? Or, is it about choices – choosing the have-to-do’s wisely? All of us have some similar have-to-do’s… Laundry, house work, cooking, etc… How do you find happiness in the daily mundane tasks? Take some time to fully explore this in your journal.
Daily journal writing prompt bonus: I am a huge proponent of choosing your occupation according to what you are passionate about. I know this flies in the face of some advice given by money-making gurus (who claim that it doesn’t matter what you do – even if you hate it or have no interest – as long as you make lots & lots of money), but, I really believe this is one area of your life in which you can exercise some control and thus create a more harmonic and happy life.
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Journal writing prompt: Who’s in charge?
Posted by: | Comments“If you don’t run your own life, somebody else will.”
~John Atkinson
In your journal, consider today’s quote.? Who do you give up control of your own life to?? Your boss?? Your spouse?? Your children?? Your pets?? Your business? Your circumstances? Are you aware of when you give up the duty of running your own life?? If you are the one in the driver seat, have you always been?? Or did you experience an “a-ha” moment where you chose to run your own life again?
Daily journal writing prompt bonus: This quote effected me on many levels when I first read it.? I thought about my business, my passions, my family….While I own my own business, sometimes, I have found that I allow it to run my life for me.? I’ve found that, with our family schedule, my children sometimes are running my life.? I was sort of shocked and dismayed when I came to this realization as I was allowing other people, circumstances, and things to take over without even realizing it.? I have found that some of my friends feel the same way – and also have found themselves giving up the “running of their lives” to societal pressures – the pursuit of things.? I believe when we do this, it often leads to unhealthy stress levels, and, in time, serious health issues.
However, the good news in all this is that I’ve also found that we seem to have “warning signs” that tell us when someone or something else is running our lives.? These warning signs are different for different people, but, as a general rule, they are there.? In your journal, think about times when you’ve given up the task of running your own life to someone or something else.? What “symptoms” did you experience?? How did you feel emotionally, physically, and spiritually?? Take some time to write about this in your journal, and mark this page for future reference.? Make a mental note to be aware of your own personal warning signs, and, as needed revisit this prompt to add to or subtract from your original ideas of your own warning signs.
Happy Journaling!
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Journal Writing Prompt: Hidden
Posted by: | Comments“Our greatest pretenses are built up not to hide the evil and the ugly in us, but our emptiness. The hardest thing to hide is something that is not there.”
~Eric Hoffer
I believe that it’s a well-accepted fact that everyone carries on some sort of pretense.? I’m not sure I completely agree with that fact, but, it may well be true, despite my disagreement.? Today’s quote speaks of pretenses as if they were fact, that everyone carries on with some sort of pretense.? So, in your journal, write about today’s quote.? What are your pretenses?? Where is the emptiness that you are trying to cover? (I know this may be a tougher prompt than many here, but, I encourage you to give this some thought and then write without editing your thoughts.? For some, this could be a “ground breaker” into other areas of life.
Journal writing prompt bonus:? Do you believe everyone has pretenses?? If so, following the logic of today’s quote, do you believe everyone has a hidden emptiness within them?? If you don’t, what do you surmise the reason for the pretense is (in general)?? Has this always been part of the human condition or is this a recent “development” due to our societal and cultural pressures?? Explore this as much as you would like in your journal.
Happy Journaling!
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